Confidence feels like an old-growth forest. Established. Steady. Solid. Interconnected. Quiet. An old-growth forest doesn’t care about the latest new thing and isn’t interested in the bells and whistles. There are no bullhorns in an old-growth forest. It’s a contemplative place where you can take the time to engage in deep thinking. It’s also an embodied place that recognizes and honors body wisdom.
When I am confident, I listen carefully and ask questions (even questions I don’t know the answers to). I take the time to think about what I want to say before I say it. I pause without feeling like I have to fill the silence. I am not intense when my passion shines through, and my energy is high. I don’t mind being challenged; such challenges don’t throw me into a tailspin or make me question everything I know to be true. Instead, challenges can help me gain a deeper understanding of the topic at hand. I feel no obligation to engage when someone challenges me rudely or disrespectfully.