I so hear you on feeling disconnected with the body. Have lived most of my life in that disconnection. All the best with the unpacking! I’d say that’s definitely a key piece of the whole “being” puzzle 🙂
Thanks for nudging me to continue reflecting. There’s this one thing that has ENRAGED me ever since I was a child – and continues to do so: gender based norms and discrimination.
I grew up in India where female foeticide was prevalent. It still is.
That’s a more extreme version of what I’m talking about, but every single day I received messages about how good girls behave, what kind of a woman is a good woman, and what makes a good mother. Parts of me are still buried under that conditioning. I am actively working on digging them out.
With time, things have gotten even more challenging for women, I think. We’re told we can have it all. Whether or not all women want it all or even agree about what “all” means is a whole different story. We’re supposed to have it all and do it all and always put other people’s needs ahead of ours because that’s what good women do. And sooner or later, we’re burnt out, full of resentment because we constantly abandon ourselves in our pursuit of being good, selfless women.
What if we could stop all the self-abandonment?
What if we could care for ourselves like we care for others?
What if it was okay to be selfish?
Because here’s the thing: prioritizing our own needs, desires, and dreams can fuel us in a way not much else can.
And isn’t it better to give from a place of fullness rather than emptiness?
The societal norms were designed to keep us compliant.
Those of us who want freedom? We’ll need to break some rules.
Okay. That ended up being a bit of a rant but I do feel like it’s closer to what I see my kindreds going through and what I hope to help shift in their lives.